This week on the Bert show, the hosts will be playing their favorite roadtrip playlists. Here is mine!
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Single and the City
I never thought that I would be 25 and still single. When I was in highschool, my plan to get married ASAP. However, when I moved out of my parents house, I realized how awesome it is to not have someone that you're accountable to all the time. Now I know duh I'm always accountable to God. But you know what I mean. No curphew, no commitments, no obligations, no asking permission. In regrds to relationships with boyfriends, my friends had them and they never had time to do anything but hang out with their boyfriends. I know this is on the verge of sounding like another bitter diatribe made by yet another cynical girl. And it might be, haha, but I will try and steer clear of that.
Recently, people my age (and younger for that matter) are getting married and having children. I am definitely not ready for that kind of commitment in my life (as previously suggested I enjoy my freedom). I started hanging out with people younger than myself. This was going fine until the last year or so. I am not in college nor am I supported by my parents by finances or housing. So I've more recently started hanging out with couples and some that have children. Of course I am not in a couple and I do not have children. I hate for them to feel sorry for me if they do and invite me to stuff. I would like to think it's because of my charming personality or something. But it's tough because I don't have alot in common with them. No spouse, no children, no sex. And it seems they talk about those things because that is relevant to their lives obviously, and especially with the recently married and newly parented people.
With all this being said, where does it leave me? And I really don't want comments from girls who got married before they were 22. No offense at all, but your perspective on this matter is moot. Here is my rock and my hard place. I know most of you are thinking 'geez what's the big deal you're only a couple years older'. In your 20's there is some sort switch that goes off in your head once you hit about 25. I don't know what really triggers it. For some it may come early and for some later. But this switch says "Ok time to really grow up. You thought you were grown up before but you're really not. Get it together and make plans for the future.". For girls people call it your biological clock. But that's just a catchy phrase that scares guys away from commitment. But I think guys have it too. If they're still single at 30 it's a little bell that goes off. Kid Cudi said "I really hope I get to see 30 wanna settle down and stop being so flirty". He packaged that very nicely for my point there.
People tell me, "you're just not putting yourself out there enough". To you I say "where should I put it then?". I don't want to meet any guys at bars or clubs. Those guys most of the time are looking for a hook up or an easy girl. Just because you buy me a beer does not mean I'm putting out for you. And clubbing is not my scene. I'm not necessarily frustrated with being single, I'm just frustrated with the dating scene as a whole. It's hard to find a quality guy that isn't already married and isn't 5 years younger than me. And any guy that I am interested in doesn't seem to interested in me. In the words of Danielle "I never get what I want!". Lol
So officially I gave up on looking for a guy 3 years ago. But unofficially, I've been thinking about it more and more recently. On the flip side, I'm a very selfish person and really enjoy doing whatever I want whenever I want. Until I get passed that, I'm unlikely to find someone. Nevertheless and other words like that, I love my life. I don't want a boyfriend because I feel like I can't go on without one or I'm not complete in life without one. I can take care of myself if I have to. I just want male affection. I just want someone to cuddle, is that so wrong? Lol.
In the Bible Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:7-11;25-28 "7Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me—a simpler life in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others.
8 -9I do, though, tell the unmarried and widows that singleness might well be the best thing for them, as it has been for me. But if they can't manage their desires and emotions, they should by all means go ahead and get married. The difficulties of marriage are preferable by far to a sexually tortured life as a single.
10 -11And if you are married, stay married. This is the Master's command, not mine. If a wife should leave her husband, she must either remain single or else come back and make things right with him. And a husband has no right to get rid of his wife
25 -28The Master did not give explicit direction regarding virgins, but as one much experienced in the mercy of the Master and loyal to him all the way, you can trust my counsel. Because of the current pressures on us from all sides, I think it would probably be best to stay just as you are. Are you married? Stay married. Are you unmarried? Don't get married. But there's certainly no sin in getting married, whether you're a virgin or not. All I am saying is that when you marry, you take on additional stress in an already stressful time, and I want to spare you if possible."
So as you can see, I should stay single, but if I cannot bear lack of physical intimacy to such a great extent, then I should get married. Alright then.
Recently, people my age (and younger for that matter) are getting married and having children. I am definitely not ready for that kind of commitment in my life (as previously suggested I enjoy my freedom). I started hanging out with people younger than myself. This was going fine until the last year or so. I am not in college nor am I supported by my parents by finances or housing. So I've more recently started hanging out with couples and some that have children. Of course I am not in a couple and I do not have children. I hate for them to feel sorry for me if they do and invite me to stuff. I would like to think it's because of my charming personality or something. But it's tough because I don't have alot in common with them. No spouse, no children, no sex. And it seems they talk about those things because that is relevant to their lives obviously, and especially with the recently married and newly parented people.
With all this being said, where does it leave me? And I really don't want comments from girls who got married before they were 22. No offense at all, but your perspective on this matter is moot. Here is my rock and my hard place. I know most of you are thinking 'geez what's the big deal you're only a couple years older'. In your 20's there is some sort switch that goes off in your head once you hit about 25. I don't know what really triggers it. For some it may come early and for some later. But this switch says "Ok time to really grow up. You thought you were grown up before but you're really not. Get it together and make plans for the future.". For girls people call it your biological clock. But that's just a catchy phrase that scares guys away from commitment. But I think guys have it too. If they're still single at 30 it's a little bell that goes off. Kid Cudi said "I really hope I get to see 30 wanna settle down and stop being so flirty". He packaged that very nicely for my point there.
People tell me, "you're just not putting yourself out there enough". To you I say "where should I put it then?". I don't want to meet any guys at bars or clubs. Those guys most of the time are looking for a hook up or an easy girl. Just because you buy me a beer does not mean I'm putting out for you. And clubbing is not my scene. I'm not necessarily frustrated with being single, I'm just frustrated with the dating scene as a whole. It's hard to find a quality guy that isn't already married and isn't 5 years younger than me. And any guy that I am interested in doesn't seem to interested in me. In the words of Danielle "I never get what I want!". Lol
So officially I gave up on looking for a guy 3 years ago. But unofficially, I've been thinking about it more and more recently. On the flip side, I'm a very selfish person and really enjoy doing whatever I want whenever I want. Until I get passed that, I'm unlikely to find someone. Nevertheless and other words like that, I love my life. I don't want a boyfriend because I feel like I can't go on without one or I'm not complete in life without one. I can take care of myself if I have to. I just want male affection. I just want someone to cuddle, is that so wrong? Lol.
In the Bible Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:7-11;25-28 "7Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me—a simpler life in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others.
8 -9I do, though, tell the unmarried and widows that singleness might well be the best thing for them, as it has been for me. But if they can't manage their desires and emotions, they should by all means go ahead and get married. The difficulties of marriage are preferable by far to a sexually tortured life as a single.
10 -11And if you are married, stay married. This is the Master's command, not mine. If a wife should leave her husband, she must either remain single or else come back and make things right with him. And a husband has no right to get rid of his wife
25 -28The Master did not give explicit direction regarding virgins, but as one much experienced in the mercy of the Master and loyal to him all the way, you can trust my counsel. Because of the current pressures on us from all sides, I think it would probably be best to stay just as you are. Are you married? Stay married. Are you unmarried? Don't get married. But there's certainly no sin in getting married, whether you're a virgin or not. All I am saying is that when you marry, you take on additional stress in an already stressful time, and I want to spare you if possible."
So as you can see, I should stay single, but if I cannot bear lack of physical intimacy to such a great extent, then I should get married. Alright then.
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Missing out on Life?
After facebook stalking people looking at pictures of people and the fun things they do, Danielle and I have decided that we do not do as many adventurous things as we would like, nor do we document anything with photos any longer. Well things are about to change!
Here is a list of 29 things that we are going to do within the next 12 months. Anyone is welcome to join us!
1. Camping
2. Fishing
3. Canoe Trip
4. Sporting Event (a game of some sort)
5. Hiking
6. Make Pottery
7. Plant a garden (or a potted plant lol)
8. Biking
9. Rollerblading (Sparkles doesnt count apparently)
10. Lazer Tag (Sparkles will count)
11. Surfing (not the web)
12. Tennis
13. Run a Marathon (or half)
14. Go Fourwheeling
15. Go Sailing
16. Paint
17. Learn to play piano
18. Go to a Rodeo
19. Go to a Monster Truck Ralley
20. Go to Dixie Speed Way
21. Waterfall
22. Screen on the Green
23. Zip Line
24. Horseback Riding
25. Yoga
26. Learn to play Guitar
27. Learn a Foreign Language
28. Join a Flash Mob
29. Go Jet Skiing
There will be more added to this list at a later date. We've got to experience life before we get old and married! haha! Any suggestions for other things to do are welcomed.
Here is a list of 29 things that we are going to do within the next 12 months. Anyone is welcome to join us!
1. Camping
2. Fishing
3. Canoe Trip
4. Sporting Event (a game of some sort)
5. Hiking
6. Make Pottery
7. Plant a garden (or a potted plant lol)
8. Biking
9. Rollerblading (Sparkles doesnt count apparently)
10. Lazer Tag (Sparkles will count)
11. Surfing (not the web)
12. Tennis
13. Run a Marathon (or half)
14. Go Fourwheeling
15. Go Sailing
16. Paint
17. Learn to play piano
18. Go to a Rodeo
19. Go to a Monster Truck Ralley
20. Go to Dixie Speed Way
21. Waterfall
22. Screen on the Green
23. Zip Line
24. Horseback Riding
25. Yoga
26. Learn to play Guitar
27. Learn a Foreign Language
28. Join a Flash Mob
29. Go Jet Skiing
There will be more added to this list at a later date. We've got to experience life before we get old and married! haha! Any suggestions for other things to do are welcomed.
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